Some major decisions make huge differences in your life: what job to take, whom to marry, where to live, whether to have children.
But then you take yourself with you to the decision, and weave your life around its consequences, and it is still you that is the problem.
The good part is that it is also you who are the solution, the key as you say. Even if you think your whole problem is that you married the wrong person, and need to live in Alaska instead of NJ, if you change spouses or addresses nothing will be magically ‘solved.’ You still have to work on you.
Once you realize that, you are completely happy. Change the outer circumstances if they are really in your way – move to Alaska. But then be prepared to do the work.
And gain the rewards.
True. Thank you!
Alicia,
I think the line, “you take yourself with you to the decision, and weave your life around its consequences, and it is still you that is the problem.” is a thing of beauty and genius. I may build a blog post around this — with proper attribution, of course.
And don’t give a key to your house to someone who has already proven careless with the keys to your heart.
Better than this, open it completly. Thank you fr
Some major decisions make huge differences in your life: what job to take, whom to marry, where to live, whether to have children.
But then you take yourself with you to the decision, and weave your life around its consequences, and it is still you that is the problem.
The good part is that it is also you who are the solution, the key as you say. Even if you think your whole problem is that you married the wrong person, and need to live in Alaska instead of NJ, if you change spouses or addresses nothing will be magically ‘solved.’ You still have to work on you.
Once you realize that, you are completely happy. Change the outer circumstances if they are really in your way – move to Alaska. But then be prepared to do the work.
And gain the rewards.
True. Thank you!
Alicia,
I think the line, “you take yourself with you to the decision, and weave your life around its consequences, and it is still you that is the problem.” is a thing of beauty and genius. I may build a blog post around this — with proper attribution, of course.